The best thing she can do for herself and especially for her SON is to divorce that idiot.
That boy should not grow up learning that wives/mothers are to be treated like that.
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Agreed. What an asshole this guy is… he can’t hack after 3 days? Jesus… fuck off, dude.
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except that it’s not just her. It’s tons and tons of women who are in this situation. How is it that men have come to expect that it’s optional for them to parent but required for the moms? It makes me so angry. And also angry for the dads. My daughter remembers her own father as being terribly absent - which makes me sad because he actually was really involved with her when she was too young to remember. But as she got older, he was so stuck on this “man is provider” deal that he took jobs away from us. Same with my second husband; he always prioritized his work over his family, thinking somehow this is what we wanted from him, or that he had no choice but to always choose work. It’s a weird mentality. What was going on where they felt like strangers to their own families and somehow believed this is how it is supposed to be?
THIS is what needs to change in our society. And NO women do not need to learn to accommodate the crap schedule men have been assigned. We all need to change our relationship to work and create a priority on home life for both men and women.
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I can’t even read the article right now, much less process it.
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And then we have this fucking bitch for whom burning-at-the-stake is too good:
I’m so insulted and shaking with anger as I type. I fucking had my kid myself, sure, but I could’ve dumped him on his dad when he kept getting fucking misdiagnosed!! I’m offline for the rest of the night.
FUCKING FUCK - NO ONE SAID THAT RAISING A KID WAS GOING TO BE EASY - FUCKING EVER!!!
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I’m adopted, and there was some shit in my family about it. My dad’s family accused my mom of having faked endometriosis to get out of baring children. She’s still fucked in the head about it; we have no contact with any of them over it. I was never treated as a member of that side of the family over it.
Adoption is hard. Transnational and transracial adoption is hard. Disabilities are hard. Fuck these people for playing that for clicks.
Also, are they child laundering? This should be looked into, legally.
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I 
Adoption. It makes my heart sing to know that families find each other. You are not lesser in any way. Your parents chose you.
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I’m sorry. Know that you are loved and were chosen.
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Honestly, the person who needs to hear that most is my mom. But the time for her to hear that is nearly 40 years in the past. My dad’s family couldn’t understand what she was going through, and they were cruel, and she’ll be living with the fallout until she dies.
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I’m sorry. I wish being a historian meant I could change the past for you.
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Adoptees are not chosen. The desire to adopt is what is chosen, and then the baby that is available when you reach the top of the list is the one you get. It’s an important distinction. For parents who are able to love, it doesn’t matter which kid they get. For parents who are in love with an ideal of what sort of person they think they are, then any baby/child who isn’t perfect – hint: that’s everyone – will bring reality crashing down on them, and guess who gets harmed as a result?
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It’s horrible. And to top it off, calling it “Rehomed”.
What, you wanted to make up some of what you spent on a “rehoming fee”
How did you find the new parents, Craigslist post?
To Good Home -
We are devastated but we are forced to re-home our
Two year old son. He is a pedigeed Chinese Human
Rehoming fee applies and is firm.
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from 2013.
Incidentally, a bunch of adoption related charities wrote in 2015
The language we use is important because it helps to mold perception and shape our understanding and response to challenges facing vulnerable children, youth, and families. The term “rehoming” has long been associated with pet owners seeking new homes for their animals. Co-opting this term commonly used in connection with pets to describe underground child custody transfers suggests a benign practice and should not be used in the child welfare field as we work to positively impact human lives. The term “rehoming” needs to be removed from our vocabulary for the use of anypractice related to children and families. The elements of “unregulated child custody transfers” seem generally to encompass the practice of parents advertising their adopted children online to transfer custody of them to non-vetted strangers without public child welfare agency or court approval and oversight.
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Site isn’t working for me, but:
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Contemplating a world where religious bigots might begin acting on their stated principles rather than their privately held convictions… really seems like wasted effort.
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It’s almost as if they don’t really care about the life of the fetus.
Nah, that can’t be it.
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So JK Rowling and Graham Linehan really suck. The British TERFism is incredibly weird.
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So, two neighbors helped me by mowing and weed-whacking my front and back lawns after seeing me hack at the front lawn with my “Cool Hand Luke” manual grass cutter. The guy who did the mowing had to make sexist comments about my “luscious body”. Sheezus pleezus.
Addendum: Have I mentioned I don’t like being objectified? I did reply with, “How 19th Century!”
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This made me think of you, @Lucy_Gothro1, because I seem to remember that you’ve been getting into humor recently:
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