I hope it goes well! 
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Weāve hadā¦ one date at this point? However long later?
This guy keeps ghosting and texting me again weeks later, what does it mean?
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He likes to keep it light OR heās not that into you.
Heās dating a lot of people and expects you are doing the same OR he doesnāt date a lot and expects you are the same.
To me stuff like that is about seeing expectations? āSo, see you in a few weeks?ā is making it clear that a) you will see each other again but b) it wonāt be very soon.
Iāve had this scenario, and Iāve had the opposite too, where making it through one date was assumed to mean we were a couple who would get together every evening.
People have different needs and expectations. So long as you both know what those are, it eases a lot of anxiety and losers the potential for miscommunication.
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Yeah, I actually get more scared away when people come on too strong, too fast, so it doesnāt bother me that much, but this seems to be the other extreme, where Iāve almost forgotten he exists & then he pops back in. I guess this time he was visiting the place he grew up, a third world country, so might not have had any technological access during that time.
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Update: I havenāt been around here much because life has been busy and good. With winter reducing hiking and biking opportunities, Iāve invested increasing amounts of time into painting and martial arts.
Iāve also finally made a close friend. We just happened to walk the same direction from martial arts each session; talked a few times on the way and got increasingly used to walking together until we started leaving together at the same time and often hung out for a long time afterwards. She doesnāt go to martial arts anymore but weāre still hanging out when we can. Sheās extremely generous and kind and follows her own syncretic spirituality ā Iāve found these traits often all go together, especially in people Iāve seen as my emotional/spiritual mentors.
Iām still sometimes left wanting a friend who exercises the more rational side of my brain, though!
There is a gentle, quiet man at work Iāve been playing go with and having breakfast with pretty frequently. Not really close yet but heās mentioned we should go hiking when it gets warmer and I think we have compatibly introspective attitudes towards that activity, and might also be able to have deeper conversations outside the office building.
Otherwise: I wonāt say oil paints are my friends yet, but we are finally on speaking terms, at least.
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Yay!
(Miss you 'round here though)
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Glad youāve found someone in a similar orbit!
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Thatās pretty good. 
I donāt think Iāve ever met anyone else who plays go or can appreciate the beauty of it.
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