at the risk of sharing too much, my working theory has always been that the only people who have any need to see my dick would be those people who have sincerely asked to see it, whether it’s a sexual partner or a doctor. i have neither need nor desire to show it to anyone else. i admit that four years of dorm life in a male dorm with a ten shower head, open plan shower made that impossible to practice at times but even then it was never salacious.
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I think some men’s heads are so immersed in porn that they believe the storylines could come true. Hence, unsolicited dick pics or dropping trou in mixed company.
Now, the impetus doesn’t spring from merely watching porn (and I believe everyone, whatever gender has the right). I think it comes from the self-loathing, woman-hating place in many men.
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i’d like to read the book under review here. i’ve read lerner, brownmiller, mackinnon and dworkin. this sounds like it might be a useful addition to my reading.
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I imagine there’s a guy named Steve in Maine who feels the same way every day.
ETA: Not that I am accusing the representative from Iowa of anything, other than just generally being a shitty human being.
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I think it’s also a lack of confidence in themselves. They need validation of their magnificent cock at all times. they need all women to want to suck it, or else they feel as if they’ve failed to be “real” men… They literally have fragile little egos that can be shattered by the merest hint of rejection. If they can exert power over others, they don’t have to worry about rejection, because they can just take what they think they deserve.
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And where does that come from? I doubt anybody is born with it.
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It probably doesn’t help that “real men” are usually depicted (in fiction) as the ones all the girls swoon over, who can have anyone in their bed minutes after first meeting, and no woman can resist their charms if they’re persistent enough, no matter how many times she says “no”.
Bad enough if a low-level manager on a power trip at a small business buys into that. If a guy in the “rich and powerful” set actually buys into that vision of how their life should be, and gets trained by how it sometimes can be that way for them…
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And this is why we need more complicated depictions of masculinity in TV and films…
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Yep, I agree.
I just back home from seeing Hamilton (which, by the way, earns the strongest, most enthusiastic recommendation I can offer), and I confess I was a tad weirded out at how incredibly (ahem) “reliable with the laaaadies” the Founding Fathers were portrayed as being, especially Hamilton himself. In the play, he’s aware of his limited appeal as a mate in social terms: immigrant, penniless, politically passionate but without a “good name,” etc. But nevertheless, he charms the hearts out of two Schuyler sisters, has an unfortunate affair with someone else, and sure enough pays a price for these things. (Even his son finds himself the beneficiary of his father’s reputation as a charmer both in the sack and out of it.)
Maybe he was that gorgeous. Maybe it was easier to get laid in the late 18th century. But now that the character has been dusted off as a new idealistic hero for the 21st century, the ease with which he attracts the eyes of the ladies sits somewhat uneasily with me. Even if it does serve a dramatic purpose of indirectly leading to his downfall.
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Chris Thile’s show is on OPB right now, still being announced as A Prairie Home Companion 
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The shows are in the can weeks if not months before broadcast. It will take probably till the end of the current season.
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It’s 9 days until the election here. I’m like a cat on a hot tin roof who just smoked crack. Anyway, it’s only 9 days, and I’m terrified Moore will win. If you have influence with anyone in AL, use it now, please. If Doug Jones wins, that’s a win for all of us.
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What will they change the name of the show to? I’m guessing they didn’t have an alternate name picked out and ready to go when they abruptly decided to stop calling it Prairie Home Companion.
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Midwest Domicile Associate
Sod Hut Assistant
Raised Ranch Buddy
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Talent doesn’t preclude assholerly, unfortunately.
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It does happened; a good friend of mine, a musician, wouldn’t play David Bowie songs (I KNOW, right?) because he was gay. But after his daughter’s wedding, where he met and conversed with some of gay male friends, he did a 180-degree turnabout.
I gotta ask him if he’ll play any Bowie songs now, though. Keeps slipping my mind.
What about people like Iggy Pop and Sable Starr? What about the girls who go out to get star-fucked? It’s consensual (like that other groupie who was “devirginized”, as she put it, by Bowie, her name escapes me), but the female is underage? To me, that shows that both the star and the groupie have self-esteem issues. Heck, as a dorky, acne-riddled, thick-spectacled teen with great legs and a dad who was screwing around and being a bad parent, I _appreciated_older men who acted like I was beautiful, smart, and worth talking to. I lost my virginity at the age of 16.5 with a 27-year-old man. He didn’t force me one bit. No one my own age wanted to go out with me, that I know of - you know how teens are; who knows who might’ve had a crush on me?
There’s an issue here, but I can’t quite put a name to it. Girls who want male attention, but who can’t get it in a healthy manner from their dads? I mean, he said I looked “sexy” when I was 12, showing off a new outfit (it was pants and patent-leather Mary Janes, and some blouse I don’t remember - not sexy at all). I think he was trying to be “hip”, but um, NO.
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Flyover Crib Homie?
Too much?
How about White House Co-Occupant?
No, you’re right, distasteful subtext there.
My Cracker Barrel Roommate?
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I really have to say it’s a combination of nature/nurture. My molester and I share the same DNA, yet he developed a personality that is completely antithetical to mine and not shared by anyone in our nuclear family. And it’s not as simple as passing it off as “dropped on his head as a baby” because I’ve suffered much more head trauma than he.
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We Should Have Quit 20 Years Ago?
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