Putting this here, because names are not named, but this sort of thing has implications beyond the obvious, including the fact that the more women get pushed out of medicine, the harder it is to overcome the inherent male bias in treatment.
https://www.instyle.com/times-up-surgeon-harassment-experience
At the risk of being performative, if I had been there, I’d have grabbed Costco Guy’s cart and pushed it out into the street.
As a man, you are privileged to do so with little consequence beyond a few miffed words. Women are at risk of facing immediate violence in the same situation.
The title of this article is so misleading. Actually Rotten Tomatoes is not shutting down trolls. It’s just pandering to the film industry and slightly modifying how it handles opening up comments.
This I think points to a large issue on web conversations, the belief that being fair to everyone means applying rules equally but not observing how those rules can be manipulated to intimidate others online. What if instead of rules the point was kindness and civility and anyone violating that through repeated interactions was banned. Parsing each individual post does not show a person’s true intention behind their communication. You need to look at their whole effect as a contributor and act quickly to protect the tone of your space. IMHO.
I think the difference is the former kind of rules can be coded into the site, whereas the latter require some sort of moderation by humans. Sites in general prefer code to people since code is cheaper.
It circles back to an ugly aspect of culture, which is “it’s okay to be an asshole to someone if they’re a stranger”. Like a lot of Internet things, it exists in real life too but is far worse online.
In both real life and online, it seems to be about dominance. I remember reading an article in the early days of the net which claimed it would never be important, and the proof of that was it was dominated by people at the less prestigious universities. The author failed to see how the net was subverting geography and making it less relevant.
The net continues to make traditional sources of dominance less relevant, and that is freaking certain people out – so they try to dominate and intimidate. The lesson that needs to be learned is being an asshole doesn’t get you what you want in the long term.
Yep you end up with a lot of dogs pissing on fire hydrants and thinking that means they can own the water.
Some current movie suggestions; no feminism directly, but it’s about supporting women’s work:
Here’s a guy who is part of the solution:
You may need to use a VPN, this won’t play in Mexico.
Everybody’s favorite gameshow, What’s Her Name? with guest host John Mulaney playing a contestant.
I couldn’t sleep, so I started to pull together notes, tips and tricks from my past three years of dealing with sexist harassment. I am now fully exhausted.
Positive energy to you.
From that thread:
Maybe he wants it to be like “real life”? “He heaved and sweated over her while mauling her breasts, before making a sound like a dying animal, collapsing, and then rolling off her. ‘Was it good for you,too,’ he mumbled before crashing into sleep.”?
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The kids are alright: