A thousand times this. Thank you.
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This is the quoted (now deleted) tweet in question:
The replies were doctors both men and women who felt that getting consent each time a patient got examined is too much work.
This also hits trans people hard. A lot of doctors hit a spectrum between morbid curiosity and outright fucking cruel.
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This is SESTA/FOSTA all over again.
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I know the BREAK THE INTERNET act is a horrifically bad idea, but does that mean it’ll pass?
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I’ve been bitching about this for YEARS…in fact, I wrote a paper on how women are depicted on TV back in HIGH SCHOOL and I wish I knew what happened to it! I think I focused mostly on the sexism factor, but I may’ve touched on this. And tell me DisneyCorp. isn’t responsible for the reinforcement of the conceived values placed upon romantic and erotic love! It REALLY pisses me off (don’t get me started on the misogyny of Billy Wilder!)!!
I mean, all that that’s on that list - I learned that in fucking therapy YEARS ago.
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SO…
What do I do with my Bill Cosby albums on LP vinyl?
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Bonfire? Shooting practice? Frisbee?
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I was just asked to read a screed claiming, among other things, that “Transgender ideology denies that women have a self, an inner world.”
I don’t know what to say. I know I have an inner world, and assume everyone else has one too. If I assumed women didn’t, why would I consider myself a woman? it’d be about the biggest imaginable difference.
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How can anyone believe such obvious garbage?
Right?
Also, that first statement strikes me as gender essentialism, in that isn’t it assume that all cis-gendered women have the same kind of inner world?
And notice that these assholes only want to talk about transwomen and the danger supposedly pose to cisgendered women? They never talk about transmen, like they just don’t exist at all.
The transphobic world view is all kinds of fucked up and inhuman.
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If you need a remider that toxic masculinity harms boys (and men, too):
The culture that a boy is somehow “getting lucky” by “managing to score” with an older woman absofuckinglutely harms them. It enables child abuse. It makes it harder for boys to report abuse by women. It shields predatory women by implying that women are being “seduced” by boys rather than women grooming them. It invests power and agency in boys that they do not have, and strips it from women.
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and, of course,
(it covers more than just schools)
which, if combined with the ruling in june, is even more troubling
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Maybe we need The De-nazification of Men:
What is this thing we’re trying to be? I resist writing about masculinity just as I resist taking aspirin for the headache that has plagued me, on and off, all this week. Even as I seek to undermine the social power that feminism has shown me I have—even as I apologize for interrupting, seek out the role of second fiddle, quiet my ego—my masculinity, in exactly the same moment, tells me I ought not to be babying it by paying attention to it at all. What do I think it is, anyway—some girl ?
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But didn’t they end up getting married? Yes, they did. But he did ask for a legal separation in 2019. Why? Because it was wrong for them to be together? Because she was dying?
IMNSHO, I do think there are exceptions to the age-taboo, ones that don’t involve brainwashing or control by either partner.
He was a twelve-year-old child. This wasn’t a spring/autumn situation. He was a twelve-year-old child and she was his teacher.
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There are sociopathic children out there, you know. Why didnt’ he tell an adult authority figure what was going on? Did she actually twist him that much? How twisted was she? Was his life really bad at home?
I knew an 11-year-old “boy” when I was 14 who looked 18. I am NOT kidding, he was like a Jan-Michael Vincent-type, complete with the California-surfer shag haircut only with a slight dark blond goatee and sometimes mustache. I witnessed him at an age-guessing booth at Cedar Point, and 11 was not one of their guesses; we are talking early male puberty here. And he knew what was going on re being adult, or at least playing at it. I wasn’t a cute chick, so I never really got to talk to him, though he was never super-mean to me. Joe Barton was his name. Why do I remember stuff like this?
BUT…I mean, if any part of their marriage worked at all, why did they stay together? To show that they could?
Will we ever know the truth? All I know is stuff happens, correctly or incorrectly, good or evil, moral or immoral, according to whatever civilized mores and/or rules that are being followed at any given time.
Overall, no, I wouldn’t say that an immature human being should be forced into a relationship of any duration and sort by a mature human being. Levels of maturity or different. And I’m sorry, I tend to analyze or judge or whatever it is I’m doing on an individual basis.
But I really don’t get the world, I really don’t.
Yes, but they are still children and don’t deserve to be raped.
She was his teacher, he was 12, this was rape, pure and simple. And she had already known him for years by then. Them later getting married when he was an adult doesn’t not mitigate the years of grooming he underwent in the first place. She raped him. There isn’t much gray area in this case.
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