So, like Stockholm Syndrome?
Stockholm Syndrome is a form of trauma bonding. There’s all kinds of animal behavior research that shows animals will bond more closely go people that hurt them or when rewards are chaotic. It’s one of the reasons it’s best to go cold turkey when you leave a narcissist. They are so good at hooking you in with their chaos.
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“Stockholm Syndrome” is also largely made up by a man who fucked up the hostage negotiation and didn’t take kindly to the woman hostage who called him out on his fuck ups.
People stay with their abusers for a variety of reasons. That doesn’t mean abuse isn’t happening.
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It makes me think - as I have over the years - of why my mom stayed with my dad, other than the usual nonsense of their generation of staying together for the children and you don’t seek help outside the family, if at all. And why I stayed - heck, MARRIED, even! - my late 2nd ex-husband. Ugh.
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I took a workshop on abandonment. Everyone there - it was a big room full of people - had been left by their spouse or partner. And EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM was stuck in this agony of Why Did They Leave Me? Their partners were perfect in their minds - except for the being totally absent part. It was valuable to see everyone else going through it. They’d talk about these people and you’d think, “Leave that loser already!” My roommate’s husband had moved to CHINA and left her with 2 small kids and had been AWOL for 2 years but he still, you know, dangling out the carrot of them begin together one day. You hear of this behaviors but to realize I was living it was a huge conk on the head for me. Trauma bonding sounds like some horrible science experience and for me, it’s like, oh, I think THIS is what love is because the agony of the highs and lows are extremely addicting.
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How quickly would some folks nowadays be able to figure out the answer, I wonder?
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Chinky-puncture…O_o
That show broke so much ground, and Archie being so stereotypical in his bigotry and yet lovable was key to its success.
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I have a confession to make: I would sometime pat the protruding bellies of men I knew (my brother was one), and ask, “So, whenzit due?!”
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A really great episode, and a reminder that we have, in fact, come a somewhat long way, babies!
BONUS CHARLES DURNING!!!
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& BONUS MEL STEWART!!
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Didn’t you know? He played Henry Jefferson, George’s brother, who masqueraded as George when he and Louise first came over. He was a semi-regular for seasons 1 through 4.
I’d forgotten how many great character actors appeared on that show. Cleavon Little and Demond Wilson (on whom I had a HUGE crush) playing jewel thieves who take refuge in the Bunker house made for a great episode.
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I did know that. I just wasn’t expecting him to walk in. I’m always happy to see Mel Stewart.
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More early 1970s feminism, with bonus gender-roles exchanged by…THE LORENZOS!
I tell ya, this series really hit home in so many episodes, and is continuing to do so even now (WHEN WILL W/THIS CRAP STOP BEING RELEVANT?)
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I’ll watch anything with Betty Garrett in it.
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Ohgawd yes! I LOVED her in “On the Town”, even though I can’t stand Frank Sinatra. And “Laverne and Shirley”, of course! And her draggin’ Frankie around in “Take Me Out to the Ball Game” - she really did that, no dummy or stuntwoman involved!
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Of course at that time Sinatra only weighed about 50 pounds.
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Betty doesn’t agree.
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I personally am sick of the word “pussy” being associated with weakness. Every had to bathe a cat? Ever try to give birth?
YEAH.
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