I don’t know. I can barely make sense of this analogy now. I don’t think a primary school child can appreciate it as actionable advice.
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I don’t know about that. It doesn’t sound like SUCH a big challenge. Why not stretch a child’s mind a bit, and encourage creative, metaphorical thinking?
They could always ask if they feel confused. And one way I interpret it is, “Don’t let your feelings control you,” which seems like a good reminder, and a good way to put it too.
That said, I’m sure it wouldn’t work well for all kids.
Anyway, I posted it here because it also seems like good advice for some overwhelmed adults.
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Yeah, agreed… kids are capable of more and are far more perceptive than adults often think.
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Yeah, I like it! Is this sort of like mindfulness?
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Sure sounds like it, with the calming pond idea. 
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It might take a bit of exploration on what it means with a child, but most kids would get it. I suspect this is one part of an ongoing conversation about acknowledging and experiencing feelings without letting them be in control. I know my kid’s school talks with them about this regularly. It is so much better than admonishments to stuff one’s feeling down.
We remind our kid regularly “you feel what you feel but how you act on your feelings is up to you.” This is a long the same vein and has the added benefit of a distinct calming visual and acknowledgement that feelings exist with other feelings. It’s almost never just one.
I’ll try to remember to tell my kid this evening and see what she thinks
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Agreed. I like it, and will therefore steal it for my own usage.
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If anything, I’d expect children to be far more capable of not just understanding that concept but putting it into practice than adults.
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This is much better advice! Maybe it’s just me but I just find the analogy convoluted, even as an adult. But if others take strength from it, I’m glad
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Come Back With a Warrant
Some people have fretted about how this update will impede police investigations. But police should still be able to obtain certain sorts of data—like call logs and cloud-stored images—from other sources, with the proper legwork and warrants involved. And it seems like they should also still be able to obtain data directly from the device if they have the user’s passcode, since the inactivity reboot doesn’t wipe the device but simply returns it to the “before first unlock” state.
“In a BFU state, information located on the device is securely encrypted and inaccessible,” accordingto the Dakota State University’s Digital Forensics Lab blog. “Upon entering the correct passcode of a device in the BFU state, an encryption key is generated to unlock the filesystem and the contents contained within it. This changes a device’s lock state from BFU to After First Unlock, or AFU.”
So the inactivity reboot feature seems like it will mostly be effective at stopping thieves from accessing iPhone data and stopping police from accessing data without the proper permissions and probable cause—not make it impossible for police to access phone data in any situation. This is a good thing for due process and accountability.
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That dynamic changes “when police don’t have your password,” Eddington and Craven point out. “While law enforcement might eventually succeed in petitioning courts to make you unlock your device, you could thwart their petition by offering to provide your password to a trusted third party instead. This auditor would watch police searches to ensure they stay within a warrant’s borders, preventing curious cops from reading the messy details of your last breakup and keeping your password out of police custody.”
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So I told my 8 year old this
Asked her what she thought it means. “Oh, it means you shouldn’t let your emotions control you. If you are the pond, your feelings are just part of you.” Then we had to share with her dad
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Kids can be pretty amazing!
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Maybe? But also true. Especially the part about noticing more than adults think.
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Police have tools that will get them into an IPhone in an After First Unlock state. Make sure your phone has been reset, and ask them to come back with a warrant, indeed.
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If Trump gets his way they will come back with a $5 wrench.
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Artie!
Thanks, that’s wonderful.
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One day, when I was very tired and stressed for outside-home reasons and hadn’t had enough good things or coffee that day, our adolescent child defended what they did by saying “I was angry.” I didn’t take all the time I would’ve usually to process the message: “I get that. I even think the feeling is pretty natural under the circumstances. But listen: the reason the street gutters aren’t running with blood is because grown-ups have to - have to - learn how to be angry without acting on it. And everyone needs to start practicing when they’re young.”
I don’t know if that got through, but it got their attention.
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