It’s rather concerning to me that there seems to be this idea that in our eagerness to avoid being a ‘carbon copy’ of the BBS and all its shortcomings, we should just arbitrarily ignore ‘missing stairs’ or members who have been displaying troublesome behavior, even after being contacted repeatedly by the mods.
This isn’t akin to Jason ‘scorching the earth’ just because someone made a joke he didn’t like; or because he was having a bad day and then decided to take it out on the community, abusing his authority in the process.
No matter how passive-aggressive in nature, repeated unwanted contact of any sort does constitute a form of harassment.
And while that may seem like ‘no big deal’ to some folks, it’s the tolerance of such perpetual micro-aggressions that can lead to a toxic atmosphere of complicity.
I don’t know about anyone else, but that’s not the kind of community I want to foster.
A bare modicum of mutual respect must be maintained, otherwise, there’s no point to any of this.
It’s not hard to just leave someone the fuck alone, especially once they’ve made it clear that they don’t want to be bothered.
A refusal to do so indicates not only a lack of respect for others’ boundaries and the rules we set forth as a community, but also a sense of entitlement that is highly problematic.