This thread seems to serve a similar function:
But, there’s no thread specifically dedicated to photos that I can see.
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Thanks for the important reminder.
I’m guilty of recently “continuing” a few topics from the BBBBS. It’s comforting to find (or be invited to) a familiar-feeling place, especially in uncertain times.
But I also try to keep in mind that Elsewhere is its own world, with its own history, and although it might look and feel like a direct continuation of the old place, there are some critical differences. (In fact, isn’t that why Elsewhere was created?)
In short, respect and gratitude…
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I think this is the reason that, instead of opening a Touron thread, i opened a “just silly memes for now” one.That and the fact we have enough rage for now. Maybe some silly grins are more needed than more reminders that the world is a shitty place.
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I second that.
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Anything specific you want to discuss? 
Because rather than making vague statements, be very clear in what’s bothering you so we can work it out. There is no reason not to do that here.
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Soooo, what is one s’posed to do, accept unacceptable and/or insulting behavior?
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Still trying to get a sense of what @RAvery is concerned with, but yeah, that… we NEED this place to be safe for ALL of us, especially now. Now is not the time for respectability politics, which general works to silence marginalized voices.
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I think it is probably natural enough on some levels.
This kind of thing:
OTOH I’m just extremely sensitive to it right now because I’m exhausted by the prospect of…
…
nevermind.
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Regardless to site or platform, tensions are understandably high.
You may want to DM the parties you are referencing directly.
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I’m just here to escape the bullshit
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As are most of us.
Extending grace to one another is what’s needed right now; however, that doesn’t mean that any willful fuckery will be tolerated here.
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The Women, amirite thread had a dustup over a word. I may have contributed to it.
Sigh.
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Mutual respect is rather essential.
If multiple people state that they don’t like a problematic expletive, like the word “c*nt,” then just don’t use it in this forum; as a sign that one has respect for the community here.
It’s really that simple.
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Mel speaks truth and wisdom, as always. Yeah, our forum here is cross-cultural, and instead of the c-word, one could employ the functionally identical “twat” and maybe offend 30% fewer people.
Or, one could choose an insult (if one must employ an insult at all) that is not gendered, nor bigoted in any way toward a race, religion, culture, disability, or any protected category. “Dipshit” comes to mind. You won’t accidentally offend anyone but turds with that one.
I don’t think anyone is asking anyone to be uncomfortably stiff and formal, just reasonably considerate. I could try to start a thread of Acceptable Epithets if I thought it would help, but jeez, just use your imaginations, folks, and try to be somewhat more sensitive than your typical gas station restroom wall.
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That is not the consensus here. And I’d hope that people can recognize we’re all dealing with this traumatic shit in our own way. I haven’t been posting at all, I don’t know how to say much that feels productive right now, and every time I try I get more sad and afraid. I haven’t seen you cut anyone down. Passionate defense of yourself and others isn’t a problem, IMO.
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May I suggest a review of this topic?
The world is already NOT fine, and would be even less so without you.
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If you died tomorrow, I would grieve your loss. The “world” might be fine (debatable), but a large part of it would be worse for your absence.
I’m relatively new in this community (seven whole days now!), but I haven’t seen anything from anyone that I would consider an “exilable” offense. A lot of people are uncertain about the future right now, and that brings with it an increase in… intensity?.. in their posts. It’s hard to keep a lid on things when you’re in fear for your life.
I suspect we could all (including myself) benefit from remembering that at the other end of every conversation is another human, and that we’re all dealing with our own stresses and problems. In that environment, especially when the issues some folks are facing are ones that other folks have never even had to imagine, it’s easy to say something in a way that someone else may react to in a way you didn’t expect.
(As I’m typing this, I see the @MrShiv suggested visiting the “Better Communications” topic. I second that suggestion.)
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I just realized i didn’t give you a good proper welcome (yes, it’s been 10 days but you cant stop me)
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