At the local thrift / reuse store:
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Also, use nerfs on terfs!
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The transitive property, in mathematics, states that if a relationship holds between a first and second element, and also between the second and a third element, then the relationship also holds between the first and third element. Itās commonly used in equality and inequality, but applies to various relations.
Thereās a pro-trans joke in there somewhere 
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I donāt know about a joke, but I think the truth is in there. Humans are entitled to certain inalienable rights. Trans people are human. Therefore, trans people are entitled to those same inalienable rights.
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I was perusing the romance offerings through my library (donāt judge me), which is increasingly offering gay and lesbian romance titles, I noticed possibly the first trans romance that Iāve seen listed. I canāt speak to the quality of the writing; it looks like a first novel, but kudos for Toronto Public Library for buying it.
In case anyone is interested, itās a sports novel about 2 Asian trans women athletes by Benedict Nguyen; āHot Girls with Ballsā.
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Absolutely no judgement. I know we have a few here at my library as Iāve read a few myself. Iāll see if I can compile a list and post it here soon.
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Nothing wrong with romance, that shit is great even if its not my usual go-to.
On my end of reading, i read mostly manga/manhwa/manhua and occasionally iāve read some titles where a character was trans or intersex and it was presented in a way it was not a big deal, and more importantly were not fetishized which is more of an issue in comic form. It always delights me when i see trans characters being baddies and i hope to see more of that.
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I think the author may be a trans woman, certainly Asian, in that case, the trans romance would likely not be fetishised.
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I think that is likely less of an issue in a book, but manga is notorious for really sexualizing intersex and trans characters because thatās what sells. And sure i understand the why, but its tired in my eyes.
As an aside āHot Girls with Ballsā got a laugh out of me, love it 
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We donāt have this series in our library, but the Hearts of Heroes series by Molly Bragg (first book: Scatter) is well worth reading. Superheroes, time travel, aliens, dragons, and lots of queer characters!
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Speaking of trans characters, I liked this YA series. A bit rough around the edges but good. Has some romance but not quite romantacy. The main character is a trans man and the character was definitely informed by the authorās own experiences. My library had the duology
I also really enjoyed Her Majestyās Royal Coven, which has a main character who is trans. I believe the author is also trans. Small warning: the TERF character was so spot-on, it was difficult to read. Her hate just oozes through.
The author also included some educating passages about bigotry and intersectionality. Probably nothing new to anyone here, but I was glad to see those included and it wasnāt clumsily done. They did, inevitably, get some peopleās dander up.
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Iāll second the Witch King books. Super fun. 
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Just finished The Witch King and The Fae Keeper (based off a rec from here) 
Recommended for fun Summer reading.
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Oops, thought I was in *Whatcha Reading?" Iām gonna go post what I wrote there instead, since it doesnāt fit this category. Sorry, all. 
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Seeking advice from those who have been through this:
My youngest (trans woman) well into transition, on estrogen >1 yr, prepping for bottom surgery, has had laser treatments to face and pubic region. Insists she has a 5 oāclock shadow. Scrubs at her face with a razor until she leaves abrasions. Objectively, she has baby smooth cheeks with no hint of beard growth, but she cannot accept this. I understand gender dysphoria, but she insists this is not that. Body dysmorphia in a way I have not seen before? (For any who donāt know, I am a pediatrician and have experience with anorexia/bulimia and the body dysmorphia that goes with that, but this is new to me.) Any advice would be appreciated. Trying to get her to see a therapist is a nightmare, just FYI. Legitimately, she has had some bad experiences with them.
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Even if they did not have this particular issue youāre describing it is still quite important to have regular therapy as a trans person. As you say, she has had bad experiences with therapists but i hope you guys can find the right person to go to.
That said i donāt speak from experience in that i donāt personally know anyone trans (i have spoken to some that transitioned and they all went to therapy and all spoke about it as a fundamental thing that kept them alive and healthy). So i hope someone here can give you better insight and advice.
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Thinking about it, i presume there is a local trans/LGBT scene. If there is a group of sorts for trans people maybe you or your kid can reach out and ask for resources and suggestions for good therapists that they recommend?
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A practical approach might be to have her see an Electrologist for a consultation. If all the benefits from laser have been obtained; many still need to follow up with electrology. Especially if you have blonde, red or gray hair - which laser canāt treat effectively.
Part of having needle electrology is having to let your hair grow for 2 or 3 days so that you can have treatment. Maybe longer if youāre a lady with only some peach fuzz. The degree of facial hair left would be objectively evident. And an outside opinion might bring clarity.
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Also - laser is not accepted to be permanent hair removal. Some can return and require treatment later. Pubic electrology was an interesting experience; fee sure. Thank goddess for lidocaine injections. Which require some special consideration down there.
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Her hair is quite dark, and I canāt even see or feel peach fuzz. Literally, she is seeing something so one else can. I am pushing (gently) to get her to try one of the LGBT-specialized therapy services (Pride Therapy or such) but she is just adamantly opposed to actively doing anything. Finally got her to see a PCP, which is something. She sent her to an audiologist, because she thinks she has done significant damage to her hearing (refuses to wear hearing protection). I just donāt knowā¦
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