Hahaha, oh man, do NOT me started on Trudeau and the Liberals!
I’m an NDP girl at heart and I legit bawled my eyes out when Jack Layton died (on my bday no less).
If he’d not passed away of cancer, I really doubt if PM Shiny Locks could have made it this far.
RIP Jack, you were the best, and WAY more feminist than Justin.
My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic.
And we’ll change the world.
I still can’t read that without crying… haha and now people at work are asking me why I’m crying. LOL
My answer of “Americans” is apparently sufficient!
And we were jealous of you when we had Harper and you had Obama. Did you know Obama has in-laws in Burlington, Ontario? Did you know that, unlike the US, you only need to be a Canadian citizen and not born here to qualify to run for office?
So Obama could now. Become a Canadian citizen and run for office here. Just saying.
I have never loved anyone more than I love you after reading this post, with possible exception of when I met Mr. Jilly at a Warren Zevon concert in Oxford, MS at a bar. With this story, you are now up there with Samantha Bee and Ruth Bader Ginsberg.
And Michelle could come over here and be next leader of the Labour Party. I could get alongside MO for PM. (All the old white racists are dying off, it isn’t unthinkable.)
Edit - a quick calculation shows that it’s possible that if a sufficiently large catastrophe hit the British Royal Family it would be possible for Michelle Obama to visit the Palace to announce the formation of a government and to be greeted by Queen Meghan. Look, I’m an old man, I can dream. If we’re going to be taken over by the US - as seems increasingly likely - that’s about the best way it could happen.
And you don’t see it nowadays, so there has been progress. Though I suspect the migration has been from calendars to the Internet.
Unfortunately, years ago when I became technical director of my company I was unable to ban those calendars from the R&D department, because they had gone years before. In this country they seemed to disappear from medium and large companies during the 1980s.
This is from last year, but it’s getting linked to again:
I… I can’t even. If it “comes from within”, how did it get within in the first place? None of the things mentioned in the article could possibly be innate.
My wife used to get this during school holidays and the reasons are as stated. The sense in which it comes from within is, I think, simply from the fact that we are social animals and that mothers, in particular, want to do the best for their children. Peer pressure to conform creates stress.
It must be worse now most women have to work. My wife was able to take 20 years out to bring up children, as did some of her friends. None of our children can afford to do that.
Simply because we internalised it. We watched our grandmothers and our mothers do it and maybe they did have judgy, bitchy peers, because while men could show status with being able to afford stuff, a woman showed her status by organising it all.
Sure, it was originally installed from without, but we’ve taken it onboard as natural.
Maybe this is why I’ve never really been able to clean anything.
I’ve always viewed it as something I had to do, whether or not I wanted to. There was never a drive for me to want to clean. If it were a status indicator for me, then maybe that would be a good motivation… within reason.
As the sixth of seven kids, my mom rarely failed to remind me that she wasn’t my maid. She busted her ass and was already mostly exhausted by the time I came along, so I was expected to do my part, as were my siblings.
Once I moved out I knew that if I wanted clean clothes and dishes, I’d better clean them, because they weren’t going to clean themselves, nor was mom or anyone else going to swoop in and do it for me. My wife struggles with depression, so I do as much of the cleaning as… Well, really almost all of it, because if I don’t do it, it’s not going to get done. Asking or nagging or demanding help isn’t going to make her undepressed enough to pitch in. We’re also trying to get the kids to help out more, but they’re pretty resistant to that. Surprise surprise.
This was okay for me. I do need clean clothes and dishes, so I’ll do the bare minimum to get these done. I’ll sweep the floors if they get disgusting… as in, if I can’t walk on them barefoot. Same thing with cleaning flat surfaces. I will wipe them down after they get sticky, or if they’re so cluttered I can’t find anything. But I don’t proactively clean anything, and you can forget nice little touches like dusting. I don’t do that. I will do the bare minimum to keep my house from getting (too?) disgusting, but Suzy Homemaker I am not.
This is my problem as well. I have severe depression, as well as executive functioning issues, so it takes me a lot of effort just to get moving, let alone get around to the unpleasant tasks.
It me. And since I am also not someone who needs people and have little to no ambition, socially, there is no motivator other than fear. And that doesn’t work for long.
No, I don’t “want” to clean.
No, I don’t “like” cleaning.
No, I am not “just” better at cleaning.
I like having a clean home and everything in its place and I’m willing to do what it takes to get there, thats it, thats all, its just project management all the way down.
Seems like a contradiction to me, or a miscommunication.
I would like to live somewhere clean, but for me that’s just a nice to have. I won’t put in the work to clean anything, so I’ll just settle for not disgusting and not dangerous. It’s not that I prefer to live in squalor, it’s just that I don’t really mind it.
There’s no social impetus for me to clean, because I don’t have people over that often and I wouldn’t attach any measure of social status to my ability to clean and organize. I am also inherently disorganized because of executive functioning issues and other issues, so I wouldn’t know how to organize my stuff in a way that made sense to other people, even if I did see value in it.
