Itās not the act of smoking that calms me, itās the spending five minutes away from my keyboard that gives me time to recover my thoughts. Iāve never been under any illusion that nicotine is anything except a stimulant but Iāve always been the type of person that depends on stimulants to flood out the extra noise in my head and help me to focus.
Itās a double-whammy: I get five minutes to compose my thoughts and I get to load up on caffeine and nicotine at the same time.
The stimulant effects of both are simlarly āusefulā in helping me focus but whereas caffeine starts to make me feel jittery and nauseous after ingesting too much, my stress response to nicotine has always been quite positive.
I can end up coughing my lungs up and regretting each cigarette I smoke but itās always a net positive for me when Iām stressed. The combination of stepping away from everything stressful for a moment and inhaling a strong, instant-acting stimulant is a pretty powerful thing.
In my (much) younger days, I had easy access to amphetamines and, while I never became dependent on them, I definitely used them to overcome anxiety, fatigue and general ennui. Iāve always felt that stimulants have helped me to become āmy real selfā, if that makes any sense.
Iām sure thereās probably something that is, as yet, undiagnosed within my head that is common to all of this.
The thing is though, if nicotine werenāt going to eventually kill me, I would have no problem with my relationship to it. It does the job I need it to, it wears off quickly enough, it helps me to focus and it shuts down my anxiety enough to feel like the person I āNeed To Beā in any given context.
Iād be happy to talk about it with you further if you want to PM me but I should warn you now that Iām not entirely convinced that breathing exercises will replace the exact thing that I get from nicotine.
I already meditate and use breathing exercises to calm myself when I am anxious; if you have suggestions about how to make what I am doing more effective, Iād be more than willing to learnā¦