These guys are seriously fucked up. Deeply weird.
What. The. Actual. Fuck?!
(Also, that sounds like a really shitty painting, Matt. Grounds for divorce level shitty. Just sayinâ: if yer wife were looking for an out, that painting would do nicely.)
âHereâs how you manipulate women to get what you wantâ was gross as hell, but at least I understand what it was advertising. âYou should be so manly that women wonât even want you thereââŚok, like, why? The only point I could see for that is some kind of gay fetish culture, and so far as I know none of them are stupid enough to make those their lives.
A painting of someone meeting aliens could be cool in a geeky way, if they made it themselves. As something you orderâŚI dunno, it kind of sounds like it could fall in and the home would be that much better for it. Maybe thatâs knowing itâs Matt Walsh though.
I imagine it is like rolling coal for all aspects of your life.
Thesis: they donât at a fundamental level understand how human relationships work. They canât comprehend the concept of a relationship between peers, and think that all human interactions are based on power dynamics. And if youâre not in control in that dynamic, then you are being controlled, thatâs just how a zero sum game works. More than that, if you donât have absolute control, then you are being manipulated or worked around, and you may as well not have any control at all because the illusion of power is worse than just not having it. Therefore, any man who does not exert total control over his woman is, ipso facto, being controlled by her.
Corollary: If a man canât tell his woman to make him a sandwich and have her immediately obey, then he is a failure as a man.
Thesis: They see masculinity as the state of being in control, or if youâre not âmanlyâ enough to take your place at the top of the hierarchy, then to know and take your rightful place down within it. But those who are not at the top can never be satisfied unless they are at the top. They see all male interaction as this sort of power game, where everyone is trying to gain the position at the top of the male hierarchy at all times â the Alpha, if you will.
Corollary: this is by definition a male pursuit. All men engage in this, and only men. Women are not part of this struggle, and any man who does not engage in it is either not really a man, or (because you canât falsify a religion) a special case, a Sigma male who is equal in stature to an Alpha despite not playing the power game, or rather, by automatically winning the power game whenever it touches him.
Corollary: If women are not part of this game, then they can only be its prizes. The activities and desires of women is irrelevant to the Great Game of Power played by men, except insofar as they can corrupt a man into losing that game and making him as much of a non-combatant as women are. And if youâre not winning the game, youâre property.
Conclusion: These guys are IMHO on a special branch of the psychopathy spectrum. Itâs fine to play with power dynamics. There are even people who make it a lifestyle choice, and itâs usually fine (modulo consent and all that good stuff). But these people canât comprehend the idea of any relationship that isnât based on a will to power. They literally donât understand the concept.
Further: Once upon a time âSodomyâ wasnât specifically the act of anal sex, it was any sexual practice which wasnât ânormalâ. Oral sex, masturbation, lesbian sex, were all kinds of sodomy. Then the sense got restricted to only mean homosexual male sex. And now âgayâ has been re-expanded by these people to the space which âsodomyâ used to hold. When they say âgayâ, they mean âany sexual practice which ainât right.â
If all human interaction is a reflection of a power struggle between men, and women are by definition outside and underneath this entire area of interaction, then any human interaction between a man and a woman must, therefore, be a power dynamic with the woman on the bottom.
Therefore: if a man chooses to have an interaction with a woman, whether sexually or platonically, as equals, much less where there is no thought of a power dynamic, where two (or, the horror, more) people just enjoy each othersâ company and more, this is a concept so alien that it must be a perversion. Anything which is not ânormalâ and ârightâ and âproperâ is âgayâ, therefore any relationship between a man and a woman where he expresses any interest in her interests, much less where he might have his own interests which might be coded as âfeminineâ and therefore subhuman, is âgayâ.
It follows that any relationship between a man and anyone else which canât be summed up as âgive me a blowjob and then make me a sandwichâ is âgayâ, QED.
I need a long hot shower now. Possibly in lye.
There are animals where males compete for access to harems of females. And some like wrasses where large females can turn into males to compete for them, because thatâs nature, but thatâs beside the point. The point is wrasses also have sneaker males that pass on their genes by slipping past the dominant males. In side-blotched lizards the little sneakers are known to do much better against the big dominant males than against the medium monogamous ones, which is why they have all three types.
And here? Men donât even have to sneak. They just have to not be a miserable dick about everything, and they will have far more mating opportunities, even if their goal were to have offspring with multiple partners. Less work for better results at the low cost of occasionally admitting you think a table looks nice. It seems so obviously win-win. If our behavior were actually genetic instead of cultural the Matt Walshes of the world would be driving themselves to very fast extinction.
Thatâs not even talking about any of the countless other things that make human life worthwhile. Thatâs just with the goal of spreading genes the same as a mayfly or drone bee or Elon Musk. It only gets stupider if you care about all the other things humans can do.
I donât know, I think maybe it is a fetish culture after all, just a really awful one that doesnât have any of the usual boundaries.
Iâm so confused. From what i have seen (unintentionally, i assure you) this âsigmaâ male is just a guy who refuses to play the damned game and does his own thing, is âequivalentâ to their supposed âalpha,â who is predictably a dick, and yet seems to be generally an acceptable dude. Why are they not glorifying this âsigmaâ thing? Oh, because being a dick is what the whole game is about, maybe?
Picture this:
But instead of âI meant to fall off a bicycleâ, substitute âI meant to be an assholeâ.
My understanding (I could easily be wrong) is that a Sigma could be an Alpha if he wanted to, but heâs so awesome and cool that he doesnât see the point. But he still accepts the rules of the game, he just doesnât bother playing it.
A Beta is a man who has also accepted the rules of the game, and accepted that they will never be an Alpha. That is, they play the game but lost. In their estimation, those who reject the game because they wouldnât have won it anyway are relegated to Gammas or Omegas: having denied the only thing that matters, they are beneath contempt or notice, even by the desperate Betas who, seeing themselves as unable to gain the status of Alpha, are resigned to competing for the Alphaâs notice and goodwill.
Women, in this construction, only have consequence insofar as they have a relationship to men. Women are prizes, not people. An Alpha or a Sigma is assumed to be able to collect a harem if he wanted to, whether or not he does is his decision. And of course, if a Sigma has a harem, or one devoted woman, or is celibate, thatâs his choice and has nothing to do with his status. What makes one an Alpha or a Sigma or a Beta is entirely predicated on his relationship to other men.
A Beta will take what he can get, and whether heâs happy with it or not is irrelevant. Whether she is happy with it, even more irrelevant.
And the rest of us looking on from the outside know that the premises are ridiculous, and the only way to win is to choose not to play. For most men who are functioning human beings, asking whether one is an Alpha or not is like asking me whether Iâm a quarterback, or do I field at leg slip. The simple but wrong answer is just ânoâ, but the longer and more accurate answer is âno, what are you talking about, you freak? Thatâs not even wrong.â
Every time I read examples of toxicity like this, I channel the ancestors (or Reese Waters) and ask, âWho raised yâall?â Is this what they learned from watching their parents, or something they picked up from people with issues on a social media platform? 
I wonder where the name Sigma even came from. Like, I understand what Alpha and Beta are supposed to be.
But who looked at the letter sigma and was all âah perfect, here is a symbol that definitely does not follow alpha but exists entirely outside the Greek alphabetâ? Or is it supposed to be like a Japanese game show where they sometimes have a special difficulty S before A and BâŚonly now itâs for people who donât play? Iâm not sure they entirely thought this through.
I donât usually get to be the pedant, but
In Greek, itâs the 18th letter (S).
That said,
Honestly the whole alphabet rank system for mapping male insecurity is the kind of stupid shit middle school kids come up with.
Itâs disturbing to see people over 15, let alone 20, fail to grow out of it or worse yet use it capitalize on the next generation.
If I had known in high school that after graduation I wold not be leaving the idiot asshole redneck jocks behind, and that they would indeed be running the goddamn country, I donât know if I could have survived.
Thatâs my point â if you wanted to pick a symbol that didnât follow alpha, you could pick pretty much anything from any alphabet or script except another Greek letter.
Itâs weird to me because my exposure to sigma has two distinct connotations:
Addition or standard deviation.
But not like itâs being ârebelliousâ or something. Oooh Iâm so far from average. You want a lower number if you want a lower defect rate in a manufacturing processâŚ
sigma is not really the reckless badboy of the math world either?
Ha thatâs a great cartoon.
So often this nonsense involves âI noticed girls/women sometimes date jerks, this breaks my brain so it must be that [insert made up pseudo-scientific justification]â
I tried to figure out where this âSigmaâ designation came from, and as far as I can see it was an invention of the fascist, misogynistic Vox Day. You may remember this flaccid skinsack from the whole Sad Puppies attempt to hollow out the Hugo Awards and squat inside it with a sign saying âNo Gurlz!!â.
Everyone whoâs coming up with associations and possible explanations or meanings behind the choice of Sigma for this is giving the coiner vastly too much credit.