Technically, I was the first monkey squatting down and grabbing a handful, although there wouldn’t be any to throw around if it hadn’t been thrown at all of us first.
This could all have been handled so much better. Those of us defending the thread could have been nicer, sure, but we were explaining this thread’s purpose, yet again, and that gets wearisome after a while. All our explanations were met with snippy insulting one-liners, tone policing, weird appeals to (very subjective) morality, and, oh yeah, blatant sexism.
So I don’t get the whole “it’s just drama, both sides were doing it” line. This is someone who started spoiling for a fight in a thread that was doing just fine without him, then had the nerve to say he was the one being attacked.