Kubrick. The studio paid McDowell’s points to Kubrick who was going to “pass it on”. Whaaaat?
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So they went for the person who was being “disruptive” by asking Yesner to leave, rather than the person who was enforcing the “norm”, which was Yesner being present.
I really wish people would realise that’s the pattern.
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This is the extent of the SAA’s thoughts on the matter:
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Love the responses.
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Yeah, they’re getting ratioed pretty hard.
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SAA still fucking up:
“Alleged”? The fucker has already been found guilty of multiple abuses.
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I’m dealing with this in one of my professional communities. I feel like there’s this weird stretching that goes on: one part of the community wants progress, another does not. Or they don’t know how to proceed. We need to keep the fight up and force them to do right.
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The second tweet doesn’t seem to exist anymore. My guess is someone commented the same way you did.
It seems pretty obvious if someone is named from their own campus with warnings to report them to the police if they do show up, then yeah, it’s way past the “alleged” phase.
Perhaps not obvious enough.
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Doesn’t seem like they got the hint…
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Nope. Definitely a fuckup.
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Quite a lot of people; they were getting thoroughly ratioed.
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https://www.saa.org/quick-nav/saa-media-room/saa-news/2019/04/17/saa-issues-an-apology
Okay, let’s rate this apology:
- Using the word “apologize”: Yes
- Acknowledging harm: Yes, though non-specifically
- Acknowledging fault: No (blames “the situation” for the “impact, stress and fear” but does not suggest that they are to blame for the situation)
- Detailing what they did wrong: No
- Detailing how their actions run contrary to their principles: No
- Offering support to those who they wronged: No
- Offering a specific commitment to prevent this from happening again: Yes
Overall, I’d rate this apology a 4/10. It’s an improvement upon their initial responses, to be certain, but it’s difficult to accept an apology as sincere when the apologizer never really goes into what they did wrong, and why it was wrong.
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Apolohwait.
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I have very much grown into the business of rating apologies, and this is a good rubric. Nice job. I tend to weight 2, 3 and 7 at two points in my scale.
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Thanks. Myself, I haven’t specifically weighted these, but I would think that #4 would have to be the one I would weight highest. When you pester a kid into making an apology, how does the conversation go?
“Now apologize.”
“I’m sorry.”
"And what are you sorry for?"
“I’m sorry for [whatever].”
If your apology doesn’t actually go into what you did wrong, I can’t see how #7 can properly work to prevent you from doing the same thing again.
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I received a public apology about 6 mo ago that completely missed the point. It was a self-aggrandizing apology meant to convince people the apologizer had learned. Thankfully, people saw straight through it.
I still believe this person has no idea what they did wrong.
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I once saw a play called “Self-Help for Dummies” (it apparently has since been renamed to “Self-Help by Dummiez” so I guess there was a trademark issue).
One of the characters was a compulsive apologizer, and had spun that into a career by composing apologies for large corporations.
Near the beginning of the play, one character does something to offend another (it’s been years; I honestly can’t remember what) and the apologizer steps in to offer an apology to the aggrieved party on behalf of the offender. The person who for apologized to gets stopped in his tracks, and gets upset that he no longer has anything to be upset about, because “That’s the most perfect apology I’ve ever heard.”
Later, the character explains his job, and how he specifically words the apologies to avoid attributing fault or acknowledging harm (e.g. “Mr. Smith expresses regret for the events which occurred as he certainly did not intend any harm you may have received”).
It’s definitely helped tune my ear to the tricks people use to make apologies that don’t actually apologise for anything.
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