But my understanding is that a âChadâ is simply a guy who has heterosexual sex, whether with a wife, girlfriend, or one-night stand.
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If you want the incels to Define All the Words, yeah. Personally I donât give them the authority.
If not Chad, then Jason.
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If youâll notice, I WAS subtly redefining the term.
Now Iâm even more confused about what this guy at work was doing.
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Thereâs been a few threads, but I think it started here:
https://bbs.elsewhere.cafe/t/workplace-drama-asshole-coworker/1205
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Thanks, but thatâs exactly WHY I donât understand the name. This guy was obviously a jerk and a terrible employee, but sex in any form doesnât seem to come into the story anywhere. All I can think is that the pseudonym was assigned before the incel stuff was being talked about, so the name âChadâ didnât have the same connotations yet.
Itâs just jarring in a weird way, because of all the recent discussions about calling men âChadâ and women âStacyâ to indicate that theyâre having sex, but not doing anything wrong or mean to anyone.
This guy, on the other hand, is a total asshole and it is really a great day for @tinoesroho to be able to see the last of him at work!
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Aside from not wanting to doxx the guy, choosing Chad as a pseudonym makes sense, because stereotypical White âalpha malesâ with their sense of entitlement often have stereotypical White âjockâ names: Chad, Brad, Biff etc.
That so-called incels have chosen the name âChadâ to describe rich White âalpha malesâ who are getting all the hetero sex with âhot chicksâ (Stacies) which incels feel they themselves are âentitled toâ just speaks to their jealousy - they all want to be âChad.â
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I just think its nearly two decades late for Dangling Chad jokesâŠbut thatâs just me
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And thatâs another negative connotation the name has; Chad is just a cursed moniker.
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Yeah, Iâd have been fine with âBradâ or âBiffâ. As you say, either of those would have given an indication of the guyâs sense of privilege in life.
Basically, I donât want to give incels any credit for the terminology theyâre using to justify their bigotry and hatred. Especially when it doesnât seem to have anything to do with the situation, anyway. Letâs never use the names Chad or Stacy as pseudonyms again, until the incel movement has died off.
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âChadâ has been used to mean âannoying man whose name is unimportantâ since long before incels adopted the word. Cracked (for example) has been using it in that sense since they started their website, as far as I can tell.
My friends and I used âTedâ to mean much the same thing as teenagers and âTheodoreâ if said annoying man looked like they were probably posher than your average Ted.
I think I first encountered âChadâ as a derogatory term about 20 years ago when I went online and started encountering American slang for the first time but I knew exactly what it was referring to as soon as I saw it.
Just because some stupid arseholes misappropriate a word doesnât mean we canât still use it.
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The only thing I can really add to this is that there is an actual human named Chad making my life very silly and moderately annoying today. So Iâm pro-Chad namecalling in this moment.
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You should ask the woman who coined the term âincelâ what she thinks about that!
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Wait, what woman? And how did she mean it?
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Not as âblaming sluts for not being able to get laidâ thatâs for sure!
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I had considered the former pseudonym but it was too similar to a coworkerâs name. As for Biff⊠werenât Biff and Tony the interchangeable fourth in the Hardy Boii group adventures?
In retrospect, Wonderbread would have been equally useful as a moniker, without the incel connotations.
Long and short of it is that his career at red store is toast.
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But that gives the No-Sells too much power over my vernacular - unfuck them, they donât matter.
The only person I give the âVoldemortâ treatment to is 45, and only then because I refuse to feed his egomania by saying or writing his name, unless absolutely necessary.
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The most important detail!
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Thatâs a bit different, in my opinion: she created a new word to describe a phenomenon that she had observed and then arseholes used it incorrectly to describe their own feelings of misogyny, thereby associating her original work with their hatred.
As far as âChadâ goes, they used an already existing bit of slang in a similar way to how it was already in use, albeit with more feelings of impotent rage associated with it.
If a hate group started using the word âguyâ to describe the objects of their ire, does that mean no one else should ever use the word, even though itâs quite a useful term otherwise?
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I hear you. But I do think language changes over time so weâre always dropping some words or phrases and adding new ones.
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